hi guys,
It has been so long since i posted anything... shame on me!
I hope you all had a wonderful Xmas and New Year and that the brightest, most loving energy accompanies you on your special journey this year.
Now for the so long, farewell bit... I have decided to close down my blog - Sober Thoughts. Reason being is that i feel like i am moving on to a different phase of my life and i can't really identify with Sober Thoughts anymore. Also, i haven't posted in so long - i think a fresh start would do wonders.
So - i do intend to start up a new blog soon and in the meantime i will be reading your blogs religiously.
Till next time...
Monday, January 12, 2009
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
Friendships - thank you for playing...
I was wondering... well thinking about different people that come into your life. Some stay for a bit, while others just pass through. All of them serve a purpose in your life and you are happy to be around them, through the good and the bad.
But then one day you wake up and you cannot think of anything you have in common with some people around you. You long for that connection you once had, but then realise that all good things must come to an end... Actually in some respects some dear friends simply leave you with a negative energy everytime you see them. Somehow they make you feel inferior. Or let me rather say – somehow you let yourself feel inferior or inadequate. Then the question arises – do you break all connections to these friends or do you carry on trying to win back that connection, although it really hurts inside. Because although you might feel like your paths must split you really do long for that loving embrace...
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
a superb life...
Received this email a while ago and let's face it, none of this info is really new on rocket science, but sometimes it's nice to hear it...
Tips for an Exceptional, Superb & Powerful Life!
1.) Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate antidepressant.
2.) Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. Buy a lock if you have to.
3.) Always pray and make time to exercise.
4.) Spend more time with people over the age of 70 And under the age of Six.
5.) Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants And eat less foods that are manufactured in Plants.
6.) Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat broccoli, almonds & walnuts.
7.) Try to make at least three people smile each day.
8.) Clear your clutter from your house, car, desk and let new and flowing energy into your life.
9.) Don't waste your precious energy on gossip, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control.
Instead, Invest your energy in the positive present moment.
10.) Realize that life is a school and you are here To learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum
That appear and fade away like algebra class .......but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
11.) Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a layman And dinner like a begger .
12.) Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
13.) Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
14.) Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15.) You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
16.) Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
17.) Don't compare your life to others'. You have no Idea what their journey is all about.
18.) Ladies - Go on and burn those 'special' scented Candles, use the 600 thread count sheets, the good
China and wear fancy clothes now. Stop waiting for a special occasion. Every day is special.
19.) No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
20.) Frame every so-called disaster with these Words: 'In five years, will this matter?'
21.) Forgive everyone for everything.
22.) What other people think of you is none of your Business.
23.) Time heals almost everything. Give time, time!
24.) However good or bad a situation is, it will Change.
25.) Your job won't take care of you when you are Sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch with them.
26.) Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
27.) Envy is a waste of time. You already have all You need. God provides, remember?!
28.) The best is yet to come.
29.) No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
30.) Do the right thing!
31.) Call your family often.
32.) Each night before you go to bed complete the Following statements: 'I am thankful for __________.'
Today I accomplished _________.
33.) Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
34.) Enjoy the ride. Remember that this is not Disney World and you certainly don't want a fast
Pass. You only have one ride through life so make The most of it and enjoy the ride.
Tips for an Exceptional, Superb & Powerful Life!
1.) Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate antidepressant.
2.) Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. Buy a lock if you have to.
3.) Always pray and make time to exercise.
4.) Spend more time with people over the age of 70 And under the age of Six.
5.) Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants And eat less foods that are manufactured in Plants.
6.) Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat broccoli, almonds & walnuts.
7.) Try to make at least three people smile each day.
8.) Clear your clutter from your house, car, desk and let new and flowing energy into your life.
9.) Don't waste your precious energy on gossip, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control.
Instead, Invest your energy in the positive present moment.
10.) Realize that life is a school and you are here To learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum
That appear and fade away like algebra class .......but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
11.) Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a layman And dinner like a begger .
12.) Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
13.) Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
14.) Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15.) You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
16.) Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
17.) Don't compare your life to others'. You have no Idea what their journey is all about.
18.) Ladies - Go on and burn those 'special' scented Candles, use the 600 thread count sheets, the good
China and wear fancy clothes now. Stop waiting for a special occasion. Every day is special.
19.) No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
20.) Frame every so-called disaster with these Words: 'In five years, will this matter?'
21.) Forgive everyone for everything.
22.) What other people think of you is none of your Business.
23.) Time heals almost everything. Give time, time!
24.) However good or bad a situation is, it will Change.
25.) Your job won't take care of you when you are Sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch with them.
26.) Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
27.) Envy is a waste of time. You already have all You need. God provides, remember?!
28.) The best is yet to come.
29.) No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
30.) Do the right thing!
31.) Call your family often.
32.) Each night before you go to bed complete the Following statements: 'I am thankful for __________.'
Today I accomplished _________.
33.) Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
34.) Enjoy the ride. Remember that this is not Disney World and you certainly don't want a fast
Pass. You only have one ride through life so make The most of it and enjoy the ride.
Monday, September 8, 2008
missing you...
As always i have read all your blogs the past couple of weeks and the same theme has prevailed – a sense of loss or more like a sense of new beginnings. Whether it be letting go of old habits, making room for a new family member or saying goodbye to a loved one.
That made me think of stages in one’s life. I think there is one route that is seen as the norm, that life would take:
Birth
Childhood
Adolescence
First love
Studying
Finding a job
Getting engaged
Getting married
Having children
Dedicating yourself to your family
Seeing your children leaving your nest
Attending your child’s wedding
Welcoming your grandchildren into the world
Growing old with the one you love
Now if we take the list above as the norm you can see that complications in life can spin you off in all kinds of directions. Maybe you never met that first love. Maybe you never got that perfect job. Maybe you never had the chance to marry and have kids. Maybe...
Everybody’s lives are different – mine definitely. I think i got lost on the way round about at adolescent level. See i have two groups of really really good friends. The one group are in the “getting married” phase, whilst the other group are at the “having children” phase.
Sometimes i feel that i don’t fit into that scenarios and that makes me quite lonely sometimes. But then i pick myself up again and try to create my own reality. Who knows what will happen around the next bend. Maybe i skip to the last step of simply growing old with the one you love. Whether it be a boyfriend, husband or a group of close friends.
So please spare a thought for those struggling up and down the list as i give thought to those well on their way down the list. You miss me, i miss you ... let’s get together and stick like glue...
Disclaimer: this is one of my crappiest posts as i don’t feel that inspired to write – so please bare with me JTuesday, August 12, 2008
You...
You make me anxious.
Anxious because you are opening up pieces of my heart.
You make me take the road less traveled and it scares me.
You bring me closer to intimacy in a relationship and i start shivering.
It sometimes feels like a game.
Like you are using words to force insecure emotions.
Words that i dearly want to believe, but my wall is up again.
I stand before you, naked.
Without anything to protect me.
You tell me you’ll catch me.
I can’t fall back, because what if you pull your arms away.
What if it is another game.
How will i ever live with the rejection.
I put my clothes back on carefully – one by one so that you won’t notice.
I take your hand and promise you that i will take the leap next time
But i know i won’t.
I can’t understand why you are determined to be close to me.
The emotions it awakes are wrong. It must be wrong.
You are not my mother.
You are not my brother.
You are not my family.
You are not my friend.
But it feels like you are all those things and more.
I can’t explain it.
I need you to have the same emotions i have, so i push you away.
Maybe you will realise that you do in fact miss and love me if i’m not there anymore.
Thursday, July 31, 2008
i am what i am... no shame... no pity...
Who are you?
I think that's the question that most of us struggle with in our lives. The problem is once you starting asking that question in all earnest it starts getting much too complicated. Can you be just one type of person? Or are you a multi-faceted goddess - not bound to any certain form of "normality".
Who are you? Are you:
The mother
The vixen
The friend
The helper
The judger
The sexual being
The moral adviser
Little girl lost
Or maybe you are a combination of all of these. I'm sure that is what the medical profession call "having a balance". When your life is a combination of exact percentages and you can shout from a rooftop - I AM WOMAN!
Well now, that sounds all dandy, but for us normal folk that is usually not the case. I'm sure it all depends on where you come from and scenarios that have affected your life. Some of us have to work a little harder on points 1 - 3, whilst others struggle with 4 - 6. I think that is where friendship enters. We have people in our lives that can teach us how to develop the things we struggle with. Problem is that we are to scared to ask.
Who wants to admit to a friend that they might be a better mother than you think you are. How do they do that? That fab mother might relinquish her whole life to motherhood, because she cannot come to grips with other things in her life. And she would love to ask you how you keep your husband happy in the bedroom, cause all he seems to care about is her motherhood skills. He just doesn't seem to see her as a sexual object anymore.
We are so scared we might embaress ourselves. So we would rather go through life guarding our little insecurities - later developing jealous rages. Not that you would ever admit your jealous - cause what would your friends think.
So the question is - who am i? Not who am i NOT. I am all the things, good and bad, that make up my being. I am a nurturer, the friend that would rush to you in the wee hours of the morning. I am the perfectionist that hides my insecurities. I am all of that - and so much more...
I think that's the question that most of us struggle with in our lives. The problem is once you starting asking that question in all earnest it starts getting much too complicated. Can you be just one type of person? Or are you a multi-faceted goddess - not bound to any certain form of "normality".
Who are you? Are you:
The mother
The vixen
The friend
The helper
The judger
The sexual being
The moral adviser
Little girl lost
Or maybe you are a combination of all of these. I'm sure that is what the medical profession call "having a balance". When your life is a combination of exact percentages and you can shout from a rooftop - I AM WOMAN!
Well now, that sounds all dandy, but for us normal folk that is usually not the case. I'm sure it all depends on where you come from and scenarios that have affected your life. Some of us have to work a little harder on points 1 - 3, whilst others struggle with 4 - 6. I think that is where friendship enters. We have people in our lives that can teach us how to develop the things we struggle with. Problem is that we are to scared to ask.
Who wants to admit to a friend that they might be a better mother than you think you are. How do they do that? That fab mother might relinquish her whole life to motherhood, because she cannot come to grips with other things in her life. And she would love to ask you how you keep your husband happy in the bedroom, cause all he seems to care about is her motherhood skills. He just doesn't seem to see her as a sexual object anymore.
We are so scared we might embaress ourselves. So we would rather go through life guarding our little insecurities - later developing jealous rages. Not that you would ever admit your jealous - cause what would your friends think.
So the question is - who am i? Not who am i NOT. I am all the things, good and bad, that make up my being. I am a nurturer, the friend that would rush to you in the wee hours of the morning. I am the perfectionist that hides my insecurities. I am all of that - and so much more...
Friday, July 25, 2008
Badges of honor...
I received a very funny email, entitled "Badges you cannot wear to work"... Granted - some are quite rude, but really this is TRULY FUNNY! Here are a few of my favourites...
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